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How to do education of good children sex

Clever child can ask father and mother certainly in growing process, does therefrom come to him? You are how reply, feel embarrassed tell the truth, like be forced to make up a story to tell child resembling Sun Wu is empty, be burst forth from inside stone come, still contain what indistinct mixes to say, be hold in the arms from inside the hospital come out, or, seize the opportunity that the gender teachs, tell the child, be born from mom’s uterus. Ask the parent when the child: Why the toilet on schoolboy and schoolgirl is different pose, how should you reply again, many bits when tell, oneself can feel embarrassed, those who tell is a bit less, be afraid of child distrust parent, turn and listen to besmear to say, absorb outside wrong message.

Look at TV to ask you what is brutal when the child, what is power and firm, how should you explain again?

If your answer is to call them to return the school to ask a teacher, that yourself is afraid the knowledge to the gender is to take evasive attitude quite.

Attention, normally sister of by friend, TV, brother, kin reachs children imagination of their itself original, be based on parents to the behavior to them reacts and arise sometimes, obtain the information of major concerned sex or bad mistake information, when the child grows, before had be notted absorb or forming wrong knowledge, teaching their right gender idea is very important, accordingly, parent itself should take the question that the child raises seriously, do not escape not to reply. Sexual education begins from sexual self-identity

Human sexual distinction is in early the one 剎 of be fertilized decided that, but go up in psychological level, psychological development of sexual distinction is come from 3 years old grown this paragraph during, 3 years old of right-and-left children know with respect to what can be clear about he are a schoolboy or be a schoolgirl, but also be met,enquire curiously, why the schoolgirl should wear skirt to leave long hair to play alcoholic drink of the home that play the part of the home, and the schoolboy wears trousers short head to play equestrian the game that fight, the sexual psychology that this is children develops begin, and after this development can last to manhood, the sexual self-identity of in adolescence individual is to point to, I am the ego that a schoolgirl or I am a schoolboy affirms, it is in eighteen the month comes 3 years old about between build, however the sense that this does not show to the child knows the male and woman already completely, this paragraph during also the girl says she wants become father in the future, or it is boy aspire should give birth to the child in the future, accordingly, want to affirm the sexual part of a person, in light of every thing that should say to reach place to make from him, if the schoolboy expresses to should want to protect a woman student, is not to battling schoolgirl of fist gist bully, this is the self-identity of male sexual distinction of a front, if the schoolgirl likes to take mom’s skirt to wear, how does curiosity maintain the skin and make up, then this also is the self-identity of female sexual distinction of a front.

The field develops in the sexual distinction of children, 3 years old of level central points that reach 12 years old can be put on the meaning of the body, from the point of the exterior, they can notice the men and women is worn in hairstyle above all going up is different, then children can discover, the different toilet on the men and women, the child will be then clear, the schoolboy has chickling chicken and the schoolgirl is done not have, understand a men and women to different physiology sees form namely, had this difference, they feel a few ambiguous and ambiguous atmosphere, it is to come from the embarrassed look that appears at parental division commander is enquired on one hand, it is the report that comes from a mass media on the other hand, in this phase, parents should want to notice two big principles, it is the body that invites the child to know him protection, the 2nd it is the experience that wants the child to have the obverse side to each place of the body and image. 1. Let the child grasp esteem and the body that protect his:

When bathing for the child normally, can tell the child easily, the measure range that each place are touched to touch is in the body over there, for example the cheek can be kissed, but between family member of be confined to, have when a third party is attendant, can pull a hand with others, but be confined to some kind of state, genital cannot be touched to touch absolutely, even if lying between clothings glove. Teach the child to protect his body, not merely girl of be confined to, the boy is same also, because present social news is medium, also have gradually much young man student by spirit unusual member is encroached, besides, want to teach the child, in the life, between door of pass in and out, how to protect oneself to avert the interference that gets stranger in new environment. 2. Want the child to have openly experience and image to each place of the body:

After perhaps be being driven out of Eden by god in Adam and Eve, the mankind produced a kind of original Babylon move to his body, this kind of Babylon feeling lets people to sexual face, dare not discuss avowedly, complete instead the sexual behavior with a lot of wrong message and close illicit, accordingly, parent itself wants ego psychology construction, the body should be to be respected with affirmation, if the parental reaction to child dug genital is depressed,punish, the joy that may make the child thinks this kind of means gets is wrong, this kind of message cloggy child is accepted and may give sexual love cheerful ability, and final meeting disturbs the capacity that builds love and affinity, in order to admit sexual desire replaces prohibit completely sexual desire, can the self-respect of promotional child, build positive body image, and can invoke ability and decisive power, but sexual expression, the guidance of indispensible course parents.

Parents also should use right word, parents uses simple word sometimes (sometimes even is not literal) , will describe sexual construction, for example with ” wheezingly ” or ” fart fart ” , so that let the child experience the negative message of concerned sex, because such word appears to alluding: Compared with the nose of other part such as of the body, auditive, knee, sexual organs (be like the vulva, 睪 bolus) it is quite different, and be to make a person feel embarrassed, feel mysterious or be a kind of contraindication, this meeting affects the habit of hygiene and sense, even adolescent level is right the view of the opposite sex, have the person of negative meaning to him body normally, also can have negative image to the opposite sex, and the deviation behaviour that causes adolescence, for example: Brutal, mistreat. The attitude that uses the face and children discuss a gender

Parents should put forward actively to suit all sorts of child ages, the concerned reproduction of interest and understanding degree reachs the theme of sexual respect, when for example should kin or friend are pregnant, explain to the child how concerned baby is put at the opportunity inside maternal body just about, and should use correct technical term specification, explain the baby is to grow inside the female’s uterus for example, and wanting correct appearance uterus is for baby of be pregnant with, be like hotbed like special place, the manner of a more positive obverse side is the mother tells the child, oneself are in when conceiving him, a few mood and expect, the navel that pointing to the child says, this is the place that once connected with the mother, have the kind of individual meaning objectively again already so, aux will be able to makes the child has a proper perspective and sense to the gender, no longer concealed instruct is not clear, or it is to hold in the arms holding too much illusion.

More important reminding is, parental itself the knowledge to the gender and view must be health, if adult is infatuate the sexual video tape at deviation, be enmeshed Yu Wei and strong breathtaking result, how does that teach next generation to have the sexual idea of a health, what if make,the sex of children teachs is good, the sex in social news is mistreated, brutal, near and incestuous thing will can reduce lowest, the sex that hopes thereby reminds education odd potential energy makes good children actively is taught, the mental hygiene that takes next generation seriously is healthy.